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How Can I Get My Fiancé to Have More Pride in Our Home and Its Upkeep?
Advice, Relationships

How Can I Get My Fiancé to Have More Pride in Our Home and Its Upkeep?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé, who is on a different page than her when it comes to maintaining their home. She says that though she is not materialistic, her family “holds a strong reputation” where she lives, and she likes to keep her home in order because of that. Her fiancé, however, “couldn’t care less.” He leaves visible messes, such as oil spills in the driveway. He has left their Christmas lights up for at least 7 months. How can this mom work with her partner to get him to help take better care of where they live?

How Can I Help My Grown Stepchildren Learn to Fend for Themselves and Generally Become Better Adults?
Advice, Extended Family, Relationships

How Can I Help My Grown Stepchildren Learn to Fend for Themselves and Generally Become Better Adults?

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A mom writes in asking for advice about getting her grown stepchildren to fend for themselves. This mom says she tragically lost her own daughter, but she raised her husband’s two children. She says one of those children, now aged 22, brought his girlfriend home to this mom’s home. She says they proceeded to do literally nothing except lay in bed and watch TV. They did not get jobs or help around the house. Their unhygienic habits caused an infestation of bugs that cost $2000 to fix. How can this mom help her stepchild and his girlfriend learn to fend for themselves and “move on with life.”

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