It is when you are in your first days of maternity leave with your new baby that it all suddenly becomes real that your home life is to change in a major way.
How would you react to this?
Should she ignore the judgments?
“Hubby and I have been together for ten years in July; we have four kids together. He is the only one that works, so I can stay at home with the kids.”
“It is just me as a stay at home mother who does everything in this house, and he goes to work and pays the bills…”
If you were huge fans of Full House like us, you’ve seen Candace Cameron Bure grow up on camera. Now, our beloved D.J. Tanner is a mother of three grown children and is opening up about how she feels that stay-at-home mamas are devalued by society.
A mom writes in asking for advice about anxiety stemming from a potentially major life change. She says she was recently accepted into the program of her dreams. The problem? It will mean she spends a lot less time with her twins. She has been a stay-at-home-mom since she had her twins two years ago, and she is struggling with the thought of being away from her babies for most of the week. She asks for advice from other moms about how to cope with this big change… or even whether she should consider delaying her start in the program.
A mom writes in asking for advice about filing for divorce. She says she is about to start going through a divorce, and as a stay-at-home mom, she has no money or income to help her with this expensive legal matter. How can someone with no expendable income afford a lawyer, even if she needs one for something like a divorce? Below, the community weighs in with some advice for this mom-in-need.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband pressuring her to return to work. This mom has long suffered from Bipolar Manic Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. In previous jobs, she has needed to do avoid traditional retail positions and focus on work where she did not need to communicate with other humans much, due to her mental health. Her husband, however, spends a lot of money and is pressuring her to return to work, despite her current role as a stay-at-home mom. What should she do?
“The truth is…it’s f**king lonely and overwhelming. You can’t do anything by yourself…”
“I’m the sole earner for our household, my wife stays home,” he begins. “We don’t have children. Due primarily to a string of horrible jobs that led to some pretty bad anxiety issues for her, we agreed last year that she could stop working and pursue whatever hobbies, activities, etc. that she wanted while I provided for us financially.”
There is no denying that being a stay-at-home mom is hard work. To let the world in on just how taxing it can be, one woman posted a vulnerable photo of herself crying with a caption about being a stay at home mother.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her baby who cries every time her husband, the baby’s father, tries to hold him. She says that her husband is very busy with work and therefore not at home as much as she is, which she thinks may be the cause of the problem. But what are the potential solutions?
The former “Counting On” star recently took to Instagram, sharing about a particularly hectic day at home with her two toddlers Samuel and Israel.
“In the last 4 years we have been together, I go out and get him a little something as a present for his birthday or holidays. He hasn’t gotten me anything for my birthday or holidays in the past 4 years.”
Guy Patton recently wrote a candid essay for Parents about his experience trying to find a job after staying at home to be with his child for five years. Guy had been a broadcaster before his son Finn was born, but ultimately opted to stay home to spend more time with his son.
Even though I am without a doubt exhausted and being a stay at home mom is more than a full-time job, I don’t think I will ever be as exhausted as my husband.
“Sunday. Still in bed. Trying to hide from my kids. (not having success)…”
“I feel lousy that I do not contribute financially to this family at all. Even though he says it’s ‘our money’ or ‘our house,’ I just don’t feel that way.”
“I rarely get to take breaks because I have a job too. I never say mine is more important than his or throw it in his face that I’m raising our daughter.”
“It makes me feel so horrible like I’m neglecting her, but my husband works very long hours outside every day, and if the house isn’t clean when he comes home he says he can’t relax and gets exceptionally irritated.”
“I never thought I’d be giving him away as much as I do,” Dunst said of handing her child over to friends and family.
“I don’t care about your children.”
